Why Kids Compete Differently Than They Train

If you’ve ever watched your child play great tennis in practice but struggle in competition, you’re not alone. Many parents and coaches notice a gap between training performance and match-day results. Why does this happen? Here are some key reasons why kids compete differently than they train—and how we can help them bridge the gap.

1. Pressure & Expectations

In practice, kids are relaxed. There’s no scoreboard, no trophies, and no fear of disappointing themselves or others. But in a match, the pressure to win can trigger nerves, causing them to play tentatively or abandon their usual game style.

Solution: Encourage a process-focused mindset rather than results. Praise effort and decision-making instead of just wins and losses.

2. Fear of Making Mistakes

During training, kids feel free to experiment, take risks, and make mistakes without consequences. But in competition, the fear of failure can cause them to play too safe, avoiding aggressive shots they would normally hit in practice.

Solution: Normalize mistakes as part of the game. Teach them to see errors as learning opportunities rather than setbacks.

3. Lack of Match Play Experience

Many kids spend more time in structured drills than in real match situations. Without enough match play, they struggle to handle the unpredictability of competition, from dealing with pressure to making quick tactical decisions.

Solution: Incorporate regular match play into training. Encourage kids to play practice matches with different opponents and participate in low-stakes tournaments to build confidence.

4. Different Match Scenarios

Practice drills often focus on technical skills or controlled point play. But real matches involve unexpected situations—momentum shifts, tricky opponents, and difficult decisions under time pressure.

Solution: Simulate real game situations in training with scoring, time pressure, and competitive challenges. Teach kids to problem-solve during play.

5. Emotional Control

In practice, kids rarely face the emotional highs and lows that come with competition. A bad call, a tough opponent, or a frustrating mistake can quickly affect their focus and confidence.

Solution: Teach emotional resilience through breathing techniques, positive self-talk, and rituals to reset between points.

6. Opponent Influence

During practice, kids play familiar partners in a predictable environment. But in matches, they face new opponents who play differently, disrupting their rhythm and confidence.

Solution: Expose them to a variety of playing styles in practice. Encourage adaptability and problem-solving on the court.

Final Thoughts

The difference between practice and competition is natural, but it can be managed. By increasing match play experience, training under match-like conditions, and building mental resilience, kids can learn to perform their best when it matters most.

At Our Tennis Journey, we focus on preparing kids not just technically but mentally and emotionally, so they step onto the court with confidence. Want to help your child improve their match-day performance? Get in touch today!